October 2017 - New York Times Bestselling Author, J. Sterling

My love for baseball

For those of you who don't know, I'm a HUGE baseball fan!  Mainly, my boys in blue... The Los Angeles Dodgers! So unless you've been living under a rock, or you really, really, really, hate sports, then you know that my boys are currently playing in the World Series.  #LA #ThisTeam

These games are giving me heart attacks! They're some of the best played, most stressful ball games I've ever sat through and watched. It's the highest of highs, followed by the lowest of lows- but it makes for some amazing baseball.

With that being said, if you love baseball the way I do and you want to combine your love of sports with your love of romance reading, then you have got to read The Perfect Game series! Jack F'n Carter is the hottest baseball player in the game. Have you met him yet?  Go fall in love today with my most favorite loveable screw-up. :)

#23 on the field, #1 in your heart.

Choosing to be happy

If you've read Guy Hater (if you haven't, what the heck are you waiting for???) then you'll notice a theme that runs throughout the story. This isn't a spoiler, so you can keep reading. LOL  I wrote a lot about finding your happiness. About realizing when you're no longer joyful anymore and finding the courage to do something about it. Because you see, I know all too well what it's like to wake up day after day and feel like being happy is an illusion.... something no longer meant for you. 

And honestly, what kind of shit is that?!   

As humans, I think we tend to settle. We settle in our jobs. We settle for a paycheck. We settle into routines. We settle into what's expected of us. We settle into obligations. We settle in our relationships. We settle into roles we think define us and we stay there for way too long because we're afraid to rock the boat and make a change. Why? Because what's on the other side of everything we've settled for is the great unknown. And the unknown is scary as hell.

We get used to being unhappy. Let that sink in for a second. We. Get. Used. To. Being. Unhappy.
It becomes a part of our daily lives and in essence, a part of who we are. We're comfortable in our misery. It's always there with us; in the morning when we wake up, in each breath we take during the day, at night when we close our eyes. We know we're not happy, but we accept it. It's not that bad, right? Sure, it could be better, but it could also be worse. Thinking about making a change feels super uncomfortable. Even if it's the right thing to do. Even if it's the best thing for not only yourself, but for everyone else as well....  change is scary. 

What if we're wrong? What if we make a mistake? What if our misery is only an illusion? And then, what if I'M the problem here? What if it's me?

These are all questions we ask ourselves in the midst of our fear. And the answers can never truly be revealed to us until after we've done the hard thing. We can't know how we're going to feel about a situation until we've changed it. 

Sometimes you have to put yourself first. And that's okay. It's okay to want to be happy. It's okay to want to find joy in your daily life and to release the things (and people) who no longer bring you that. I had to learn this lesson. It wasn't easy. 

Being happy is a choice. Settling in a relationship that no longer makes you feel good, or no longer brings you joy... is a choice. Staying for all the wrong reasons... is a choice. And we're so overrun with guilt over every single decision we make that we forget who we are while we're busy living for everyone else.

I've said it a million times before, but I'm not sure I've ever said it here on my blog, so here goes:
It's easier to stay in a relationship that has run its course (marriage, dating, business, school, etc) than it is to leave. Even if you're so damn unhappy and just getting through each 24-hour period one hour at a time... it's still easier to stay. You know what to expect when you stay. It is so much harder to leave. You can know it's the right thing to do- you can feel it in every part of your body and soul that you need to leave before it basically kills your spirit, your drive, your ambition-  and still, you'll struggle to say the words out loud... you'll struggle to find the strength to walk away.... you'll struggle in your decision to fight for yourself. 

Sometimes our lives truly begin on the other side of those choices we're too afraid to make. But we'll never know if we don't try. You have to fight for your happiness. No one else is going to do it for you. They can't. They're too busy trying to remember to fight for theirs.  

And I know it's not easy. Trust me, I know. But I also know that at some point you'll look back at your life and see clearly all the time you've wasted wondering if things were going to change when you knew in your gut that they never were. And you'll find yourself grieving the loss of that time because you can never get it back. You can only move forward. Even if it's just one tiny step. *deep breath*  You've got this.    

Drake's on sale

Okay fine, Drake isn't REALLY on sale. I mean, I don't own him, so how can I put him on sale? I wish I owned him. lol

This Drake obsession is real y'all.  So you all know that I love me some Drake. But did you know that I wrote a whole book on said love?

Seeing Stars is my Drake inspired romance. And right now it's only .99 for a limited time!  Who is your celebrity crush?  Who would you write romance books about?  :)  <3

AMAZON:  Click here to buy Seeing Stars

Now FREE on Kindle Unlimited!

Guy Hater is now part of the exclusive Amazon family!  If you are a Kindle Unlimited subscriber, you can read all about Frank & Claudia for *FREE*  And if you're an amazon/kindle user, you can of course download Guy Hater to your kindle device like normal. 

The reviews so far are amazing and I'm blown away by all the love.  If you haven't met Frank yet, I hope you will soon. I know you're going to love this sexy Fisher brother. <3

Guy Hater is LIVE!

Frank Fisher is a man who is torn by the wants of his heart and the obligation of a past promise.  What would you do?

Guy Hater is LIVE today and I'm so excited for you to read this story!

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